Can you help make our lives a little more bearable? https://www.paypal.me/TLCwageWARonMBC
As you all (should) know by now, I am 6 years into living with stage iv Breast Cancer and have been unable to work as a result, the cancer presently stable; is in my bones, liver and both lungs. Mike has a back injury that prevents him from doing the maintenance / construction he was doing prior to my illness, as well as he is my full time care giver and chauffeur, since we only own one vehicle. He is able to help do some small odd jobs for his Aunt on occasion, mainly because she does not give him timelines on when to start or complete the project, as she knows he is in pain, and worried about leaving me home alone, or that he has to take me to several appointments in a month, making it hard for him to maintain a normal work schedule.
This creates financial issues for us that prevent us from being able to re-locate to a more compatible home where I would be able to get my walker or wheelchair around in that is still in close proximity to the University of Michigan where I receive my medical care. In addition, I have been working hard to figure out how we will be able to get our "dream home", and pay off our cemetery expense for the headstone we have ordered to have ready in advance. You see, we are trying to be proactive and prevent having to have our children and the surviving spouse at the time handle these things in the event (when the event) occurs when one of us passes. We have yet to speak with the funeral home about what sort of expenses will be required to have a funeral for either of us, should Mike happen to fall ill and pass before me, or as we expect, I should pass first due to the cancer; leaving Mike to pay for everything himself after having no income, being my caretaker and having an injured back that prevents him from working a job he is familiar with, but no longer physically able to perform.
As I have posted before, I have set up a special link to my PayPal called PAYPALME where anyone can log into this and send donations from their checking or credit card account. That link, is https://www.paypal.me/TLCwageWARonMBC . --- when you do this, please select SENDING MONEY TO A FRIEND to avoid a surcharge so your entire donation will be sent to us, without any fees being deducted
Many of you know that I have organized fundraisers for individuals and organizations over the past few years that have brought together hundreds of people, brought income to hundreds of Crafters and Direct Sales vendors, and benefited organizations as well as individuals financially. As one of my Direct Sales vendors said to me recently when I emailed them all to let them know I will not be able to fulfill the obligation to organize this years' Fall Fundraiser for our church, The Lighthouse Church; her reply was: "Glad to hear that the cancer is not progressing! Sorry to hear that you are still dealing with so many other issues. Praying that things get better soon! Please let me know if I can help you out with anything. You have given so much of your time to the community it is time for us to give back. Please take care of yourself!"
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This touched me deeply... and I can only hope and pray that those thoughts and words ring true among many of you that have been touched by the events I've put together over the past few years. I am working on figuring out who can help to or how to set up a Go Fund Me on our behalf, to help us find a house that will be handicap accessible, and not in a mobile home community where we have to worry about our home being set on fire by careless neighbors, as our only income is from my SSDI and is less than $15K per year, it is difficult to obtain a loan.... other than with the USDA Rural Development - and at present, they will only grant me $20K. Not nearly enough to get the home we need let alone pay in advance for our funeral arrangements... SO... if you feel moved enough, to donate to help us get a head start, you may do so at https://www.paypal.me/TLCwageWARonMBC --- when you do this, please select SENDING MONEY TO A FRIEND to avoid a surcharge so your entire donation will be sent to us, without any fees being deducted
My Husband, Mike Cranson and I truly appreciate any and all help we can receive to help make this happen. Despite the fact that our present home provides physical challenges for me with my mobility issues from the cancer, we no longer feel safe or secure in our present home. The family that caused the fire on July 2nd still lives here in our park, only one street over in fact, and every time they see us, we get the "evil eye" from them... not very comforting to say the least. Apparently, management here just does not care that a resident of 13 years good standing has been victimized by these people, let alone the other two residents that had damage worse than ours... breaking rules is allowed by the people that started this fire... that does not sit well with us. That is our opinion based on what we have seen with our own eyes, and the way we have been treated by management of this park since the July 2nd Fire that damaged our home.
I hate that we have to take to asking for financial help from our friends and family, but we have no other options at this time. We are both proud individuals, and have done so much for so many in the previous years, and we have both worked HARD when we were able to work. I began working outside of the home at age 13, Mike at 15 and at times, I held three jobs at a time to support my daughter and myself, sacrificing quality time I should have been spending with her in her youth. I was forced into medical retirement at age 48 when we discovered the Cancer that we thought was CURED for the past 10 years (original diagnosis at age 37), had returned with vengeance, and is now considered TERMINAL. No Cure, only treatments. I would LOVE to return to working, but every day is something different pain wise. I have little energy level, and personally, I’d much rather spend these final years spending time with my Daughter; making up for the time lost when I was working so much when she was little, and my Grandchildren, whom one day will look back and hopefully, remember me as a woman that fought to live to share everything with them, and of course, to have time with my husband, as we were only married 2 years when we discovered that I had Stage iv – Metastatic Breast Cancer. Granted, I’ve survived SIX years with this – so what makes me think my time is limited? The average lifespan for anyone with this disease is 2-3 years. I am blessed… my own mother did not survive a total of FOUR months in 1971. I have had SIXTEEN years total, Six of which have been stage iv. I pray for SIXTEEN years with stage iv… but know that the odds of that are slim… so I plan / pray to spend what time I DO have, enjoying my family as a wife. mother and grandmother SHOULD be able to do.
If you feel so compelled to share with others, please do so. I have created this post as PUBLIC so that you can share with others. I will also be adding this information to my blog on my website and will share that link when it becomes live.
Thank you for taking the time to READ this rant, and may God Bless YOU – and may YOU NEVER have to find your own self, living this life that I live now.
aka TLC aka Daughter, Step-daughter Mom, Stepmom, Wife, Grandmother, Aunt, Great Aunt, step-sister Sister, Sister-in-law, Cousin, friend, neighbor, Rosie Teri …. META-VIVOR
ADDENDUM to blog on 9/28/2016 by tlc:
Hi everyone, Teri here. I am presently in a Physical Rehabilitation center in Canton MI following a partial hip replacement done at the University of MI Hospital on 9/22/2016 (Kaylie's 11th Birthday). I've added the "AFTER SURGERY" Photo to show the changes made to the right leg/hip after discovering what I thought was a knee issue, was in fact the two fractures becoming one break, with the nails in the hip/femur ball joint breaking at the point of insertion from the surgery in 2013. I am doing well considering it has been one week tomorrow, but have a long road ahead of me and am praying my therapy does not result in a new break or fracture in my right clavicle where there is a lesion and arthritis in the joint there. I have done 2 days of actual work in the pt room here since my arrival Monday evening, (today is Wednesday) and am already feeling the intensity of that pain when using my walker. Mike has been working very hard to re-organize our mobile home with the help of neighbors, and today was scrubbing the carpets, so that when I am released, I will hopefully be able to get around with little to no complication... considering the size of the home and all...
Thank you for those whom have messaged me that they are praying and those that have donated thus far, offered assistance, provided meals to Mike and just ... have been here for us in general! It ALL means so much to us both.
THIS is the REAL UGLY SIDE OF BREAST CANCER... one people NEVER WOULD IMAGINE POSSIBLE. #THISisMBC I am amazed at how many of the people here in the Rehab facility - doctors included - do not realize what STAGE iv BREAST CANCER means, or entails... IF nothing else comes from my posting than a few people learn THIS DIFFERENCE ... then I will feel blessed to make that happen, and not feel that all of this pain and suffering has gone without notice or for no reason. It is my goal to help EDUCATE our SOCIETY, along with many of my fellow #LIFERS just how bad this can get... it is more than PINK;PEOPLE NEED TO LEARN THIS!!!